The Harry Potter franchise is one of the most popular and important book series in modern history. They provided comfort for those dealing with a number of things, showing everyone that anything can be overcome, and anyone can achieve greatness. But the books also provide a sense of wonder and gave a charming story to the world's children. But even the most devoted Potterhead will admit that there are some issues with its world. Some of the magic is inconsistent, it has plot holes like any other franchise, and some of the plans just don’t make any sense.
One aspect of the series that always causes debate amount Potter fans is Harry's relationship with Ginny. I’ll admit that some aspects of the relationship are cute. It’s nice to know that after he defeated Voldemort and escaped the Dursleys, Harry ended up with a loving family and a caring spouse. However, that doesn’t mean everything about this high school romance makes them worth shipping. Some aspects of their relationship seem really unhealthy and others just don’t make any sense. Sometimes you have to ask why these two ended up together at all!
If you do ship them, then great. They canonically ended up together, so nothing I can say can take that away from you. But the best way to support your fandom is to embrace its flaws. No relationship is perfect, even those in the wizarding world. Unless there is some kind of perfect marriage potion. Which frankly would devalue every successful marriage in the franchise.
25 Ginny Was A Fangirl
One reason why this relationship wasn’t healthy is that, in the beginning, Ginny was a Harry Potter fangirl.
Think about who you were obsessed with when you were eleven. Now imagine being married to them.
Sure, it may seem like a dream come true, but it isn’t the basis for a successful relationship. Idolising your partner, rather than seeing them as a real human, gives them more power in the relationship and probably wasn’t good for Ginny’s self-esteem. Even if Ginny moved on from this, it wasn’t a great starting point.
24 Harry Wasn’t Fangirl Worthy
This is just something I’ve never understood about Harry Potter. I never understood why Ginny started fangirling over him in the first place! Okay, yes. Harry managed to defeat Lord Voldemort when he was a one-year-old baby, but most kids are obsessed with actors, rock stars, or dashing fictional characters. Bear in mind that Ginny becomes obsessed with Harry before she saves him from the Basilisk. Her obsessive crush is over an eleven-year-old she met in a train station one time, who had yet to do anything really great. Still not sounding healthy.
23 Their Relationship Is Based On Coincidence
Okay, yes, this could be said of literally every relationship that ever happened. People meet randomly, start talking and eventually get together. But let’s look at this part by part.
If Hagrid had taken Harry to the platform as he should have, then Harry wouldn’t have asked Molly how to get on the platform.
He wouldn’t have met Ron or Ginny, and Ron might not have gained the courage to sit with Harry on the train. Then if Harry hadn’t been a Gryffindor or if the Weasleys were Hufflepuffs, they wouldn’t have gotten close.
22 Their Relationship Depended On Ron
No, I don’t ship Harry and Ron. But you can’t deny that this friendship was a big part of Harry and Ginny’s relationship. Ginny could be Harry’s absolute dream girl, but they still wouldn’t have gotten together if Harry hadn’t been close to her brother.
Imagine their story, only this time Ron doesn’t exist. Or what if he does exist, but is a Ravenclaw? Or exists as normal, but isn’t Ginny’s brother? Or maybe they stop being friends sometime before the last few books? There is no way they would have ended up together.
21 They Rarely Communicate Throughout The Books
I’m sure that a great portion of their falling in love happened between Harry defeating Voldemort and the book’s epilogue. But take a moment and think about how many actual conversations Harry and Ginny have.
The only two private conversations I can remember them having take place in the Chamber of Secrets and in Ginny’s room in the final book.
We don’t hear about their dates or study sessions, even when they are dating in The Half-Blood Prince. True, there are more important things for Rowling to talk about, but it would have been nice to hear these guys talk.
20 How Did They Adjust Post-Voldemort?
I’m not saying they didn’t do this, I would just have liked to find out how. The nineteen years that pass between the defeat of Voldemort in The Deathly Hallows and the epilogue gloss over a lot. Mostly how Harry managed to adjust to life post-Voldemort. This wizard was literally inside of him for the first seventeen years of his life, not to mention all the close calls he experienced because of him. Harry would have to go through some deep, serious therapy. I’d just like to know how Ginny, as a teenager, handled that.
19 Not A Peaceful Marriage
This leads me perfectly to my next point. Remember how much Harry was hounded by people after defeating Voldemort? Well, that would be going on for at least a decade. They wouldn’t be able to go to the supermarket without someone asking about Voldemort.
Not to mention all the conspiracy theorists who will constantly be harassing them, claiming that Voldemort is still out there.
I don’t even believe that they’d be able to drop their kids off at the Hogwarts Express in peace. That puts a lot of strain on a relationship.
18 Ginny Is Very Dull For A Long Time
I’m sorry, but let’s be honest here. For a good part of the series, there wasn’t much to like about Ginny. We just weren’t told that much about her. She played the damsel in distress in the second series, but aside from that, for a long time she was literally just Ron’s little sister who has a crush on the hero.
In books three and four, she has no character development. I think fans would like her a lot more if her characteristics were established early and she was consistently someone we needed to care about.
17 Ginny Is Suddenly Interesting
Having said that, in books five through seven, it felt like Rowling was compensating for Ginny’s lack of personality in the earlier books. As if she suddenly realized we had to give Harry a reason for liking her.
Suddenly, Ginny becomes popular, smart, athletic, and attractive.
She becomes brave, dates lots of boys, and has no flaws. Good for her and all. But if I’m honest, as Harry’s interest only awakens at this point, it makes him look like a bit of a jerk!
16 Ginny’s Quidditch Skills Are Shoehorned in (And Make No Sense)
I like that Ginny develops an interest in Quidditch, but you can’t deny that it feels a little shoved in as a reason for Harry to like her.
In book five, Ginny makes the Quidditch team after Harry is cut from it.
It turns out that she is amazing at Quidditch, apparently better than Katie Bell who has been on the team for five years! If Ginny is so good at Quidditch and loves it so much, why did she wait for her fourth year to try out? This part of her would have made more sense earlier.
15 Harry Makes Her Too Passive
This is what I personally hate about their relationship. I like that Ginny gains some character, even if it doesn’t happen until over halfway in the series. But her confidence and bravery seem to come after she gets over her crush for Harry.
You can’t deny this about her. She starts dating lots of boys and acts like a normal teenage girl, all without sending Harry any Valentines gnomes. All of her positive characteristics seem to come out when she is apart from Harry.
14 She Seems Happier Without Him
I hate to bring it up, but it just seems so true. Again, I don’t know what happens between the next to last and last chapters of Harry Potter that take Ginny and Harry to where they are at the end.
I’m sure lots of moments where Ginny was happy with Harry happened; the trouble is that we do not canonically see them.
And without those essential moments, it looks like Ginny was happier before she started dating Harry. I’m also sure that this matter could be debated, and many disagree with me. This is just one theory.
13 Gryffindors Are Annoying, In General
I know there are plenty of people reading this who think they’re Gryffindors according to Pottermore. But you know what, Gryffindors can be really annoying!
The trouble with the sorting hat is that it creates some kind of personality-based class system where Gryffindors are seen as the best people ever because they are brave. Even though loyalty, cunning, and intelligence are great things to have. Gryffindors bully Slytherins and can just be really smug. Since this is a huge part of Harry and Ginny’s relationship, I thought it worth mentioning.
12 Harry’s Relationship With Her Family
This isn’t a problem of sorts, it just makes you think. Harry is very close to the Weasleys before he starts dating Ginny. Mrs. Weasley knits him jumpers and cooks for him. He spends some of his summer holidays there and seems to be very close to them. Now, this is a great thing obviously, it’s just interesting that his closeness with them started before the romance began. Harry sees the Weasleys as the ideal family he never had growing up. Sometimes I wonder if part of his attraction to Ginny is a desire to be family.
11 Molly’s “Coddling” Of Them Both Is Creepy
When it comes to her daughter, Molly has typical “youngest child goggles.” In her eyes, Ginny doesn’t get older but stays young and vulnerable. Because of this, she is very protective and strict with Ginny, stopping her from having the same privileges and freedoms her brothers had at her age. Then when it comes to Harry, Molly is much more lenient than she is with her sons. She fusses over him. So, when does this stop? Does she burst into their house on their tenth anniversary offering them cake and cleaning dirt off their faces? That’s a weird marriage.
10 Ginny Is Too Much Of A Typical “Love Interest”
All these issues I’ve discussed with Ginny’s character development boil down to this one big issue that fans have with her.
Ginny is part of the books for one simple reason; to be a love interest for the main character.
If you took her out of the books and gave them to someone who hadn’t read them, she wouldn’t be missed. The main frustration comes from her not having any flaws. I won’t say “Mary Sue,” but Ginny does become this uber perfect pretty girl for Harry to pine after, rather than being something real.
9 They Get Together Too Young
This is one of my major issues with the Harry Potter universe. Almost all canonical couples meet at Hogwarts when they were children, then get married after leaving school. This is not a realistic portrayal of relationships! Harry and Ginny were nineteen and eighteen presumably.
They missed out on traveling alone, making mistakes and figuring out who they really are and what they want by themselves.
I’m not saying you can’t build a successful marriage with your high school sweetheart, but the two missed out on the life experience that comes with dating as an adult.
8 They Will Both Change With Time
This is the big issue with marrying young. Think back to who you were when you were seventeen. Are you still that person now? If you answered yes, you’re probably a jerk. People change. That’s just a fact of life. Harry and Ginny, ten or twenty years into their marriage, will be completely different people than they were when they first married. This will put further strain on their marriage, as they have both romanticized each other so much. Harry being the glorious “Boy Who Lived” and Ginny being his best friend's younger sister and a Weasley.
7 They Will Almost Certainly Split Up
This is what it all boils down to. As both Ginny and Harry are celebrities, they will constantly have their privacy invaded and be swamped with work commitments. Combine that with their lack of experience with relationships and the strain of them changing over time.
Throw in three kids and idolized versions of one another crumbling, and you’ve got divorce bells.
I hate to say it, but when you look at all these different factors and think about divorce statistics, this is a likely reality for the couple. But hey, I could be wrong!
6 Harry Names All Their Children
This is an example of Ginny’s passiveness when it comes to Harry. In the epilogue, it’s revealed that Harry and Ginny have three children, all three of them named after people who have passed.
Okay, so maybe Ginny would name one of her boys after Harry’s father. But it doesn’t sound like she got a say in any of her kids' names! Didn’t she have dreams about what she would name her kids growing up? Being the youngest in a busy house, she probably had dreams about what her own family would be like.
5 Ginny’s Relationship With Snape/Dumbledore Isn't Considered
As I said before, maybe Ginny decided to let her husband name one of her sons after his father and then maybe their daughter. But I don’t buy that she would be okay with her husband naming the other child after two professors that he bonded with.
Ginny didn’t have the same experiences with Dumbledore and Snape as Harry did; they don’t mean enough to her to justify named her child after them.
Sure, Ginny admired Dumbledore, but she never saw Snape’s redemption, nor did it relate to her. He was just a jerk teacher to her!
4 Ginny’s Similarities To Harry’s Mother
Whether intentional or not, some fans have noticed that there are some traits that Ginny Weasley shares with the late Lily Potter.
Ginny is a witty, smart, popular, ginger Gryffindor girl. Who else meets this description? Miss Lily Evans!
There have been both studies saying we do and do not end up with partners who resemble our parents, but given Harry’s issues with his parents, it’s not surprising that he falls for someone like his mother. Harry knew so little about his mother growing up and always wanted to know her.
3 They’d Have To Do Their Final Year Of Hogwarts Together
I don’t understand what happened after The Deathly Hallows. Harry, Ron, and Hermione, no matter how noble their intentions were, still skipped their last year at Hogwarts. Surely, they’d have to go back and finish. I’m sure they’d ace it, but they still have to do it.
So, Harry and Ginny’s relationship would have to last through them completing their final year together. Not saying they can’t do it, but it’s still something they’d have to go through. I’m sure they gave each other their space to study and recover.
2 The Hogwarts Relationships Don’t Make Sense
You know what I’m talking about. Adolescent teenagers, all getting their shifts and stuff, living together in a mixed-gender boarding school. A boarding school with plenty of places to hide and places where no one ever goes.
But for some reason, all the books talk about the teenagers as innocents. In the real world, there is no way they would be. I know, it’s a children’s book series about magic, and this isn’t specific to Harry and Ginny. But all these teenage romances are portrayed with a romantic innocence to them.
1 Harry’s Other Prospects
The trouble with Ginny being this simple love interest character is that there is a lot of characters being developed around her. This has led to fans wondering if Harry might be better suited with someone else.
JK Rowling admitted in 2014 that Harry and Hermione might make a better match.
Harry and Hermione work together perfectly and bring out the best in each other. On multiple times they’ve proven their loyalty to one another and how comfortable they are with one another. Some have also suggested that Harry would have been better off with Luna or Cho.